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Dr. Paulette Sherman
Dr. Paulette Sherman

As Featured in NY Times, Oprah, Glamour, Cosmo

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I Can Help You Succeed in Relationships



I can help you as a couple to discover what is not working in your relationship so we can implement solutions.  I teach you to create strategies and techniques that improve your relationship.  We will work together to build great ‘couple habits’ and deeper foundations of trust, good communication, fun, and friendship.

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If you’re dating, I can help you progress through the many dating stages and dating-related issues. Together, we’ll uncover your blocks to love and transcend them.  We’ll get clear on what type of partner you’re looking for and how best to attract them.  Then we’ll create a dating action plan.  We make sure that you

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Building the Life of Your Dreams

As a psychologist and certified coach, I help clients build the life of their dreams.  Sometimes this means helping you transcend the challenges that hold you back, whether it be self-doubt, procrastination, overwhelm or poor planning.

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It can be very hard to contend with losses and to transcend rejection and challenges.  It helps to get support so you can grieve your losses, pick up the pieces, learn any relevant lessons and begin again.

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Are You Having a Relationship Issue?
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In Psychotherapy for Individuals, I work with individuals to examine where their life isn’t working the way they want it to and together we...

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Coaching is done by phone or Skype for Individuals and Couples. Generally, clients come in with certain goals. In Relationship coaching it can be...

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In couples therapy, we seek to uncover any blocks to having a great healthy relationship and we work together to heal those and put into place...

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About Dr. Sherman

Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is a Licensed Psychologist with a concentration in Family Therapy, a specialty in romantic relationships and is a certified life coach and dating coach.  She’s been a psychotherapist for 20 years and has worked with many age groups and issues in settings including group and private practice, hospitals, nursing homes, partial programs, universities, and schools.

Dr. Sherman has Advanced Gottman couples therapy training (Level 1,2,3), Discernment Counseling training and Hypnosis training. She does intensive weekend couples retreats and couples workshops.

Dr. Sherman was featured about her work as a dating coach in this article from

‘Paulette is known as “The Relationship Doctor” and her Inside-Out approach to relationships is detailed in this article by

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Dr. Paulette Sherman

Book an Introductory Session with Me

I will do one initial 45 minute couples coaching or relationship coaching session with you to focus on a keystone issue.  My usual rate is $150 but the one-time introductory Session is only $77!

Get Dr. Paulette Sherman’s ‘5 Ways to Bring More Love, Intimacy & Care to Your Relationship!

Book & Class Reviews for Dr. Sherman

"Dating From the Inside Out is a rare combination of sophisticated psychology, humanistic spirituality, and practical instruction for those seeking fulfillment in partnership. The wonderful surprise about Dr. Sherman's book is that it's not just for singles! It is equally a welcome refresher course for those looking to reinvigorate their relationships by creating new communication patterns that support loving and healthful interactions."

Dr. Faith BethelardCoauthor of Cherishment: A Psychology of the Heart

‘Dr. Paulette Sherman is a psychologist who has developed a reputation as an effective relationship coach. For many years, Dr. Sherman wrote weekly advice columns, spoke on dating issues, and drew attention from primarily young daters struggling to find love. While she still works with that core demographic, she also helps her clients navigate through all life stages — from getting married to having and raising children. Aiming to reach those who don’t live in New York City, Dr. Sherman uses her writing as a way to have a wider impact. Not only does she continue to provide advice as a columnist, but she also has written more than 20 books on a variety of topics.’

Jon McCallister

"Paulette Sherman is a fabulous psychologist and life coach. Her dating advice is positive, practical and powerful. Her lovely, warm energy shines through in her writing."

Tanya Carroll RichardsonAuthor of ANGEL INTUITION and ZEN TEEN 

‘I highly recommend this course! Dr. Paulette Sherman is providing a powerful path to creating a truly lasting and loving relationship. This class helps you clarify your relationship goals and make progress in achieving them. Thank you for such a helpful program! :-)’

‘Dr. Paulette Sherman is an expert in helping her clients find greater happiness, fulfillment and success in personal and business relationships. She quickly gets to the heart of the matter with wisdom, intelligence, kindness and compassion.  She is also the author of over 20 books that provide wisdom and practical advice on the many aspects of modern relationships. I highly recommend her and her expertise in the area of consciously improving relationships.’

-Christopher Dilts

Christopher DiltsStudent

‘Very organized and great information. It's very comforting the way Paulette is communicating to the viewers. There is a great deal of useful exercises and ideas with concrete steps to take to proceed. This is not a superficial approach to dating and that's good because I want to learn how to be a more empowered me and that is what Paulette is focusing on from the start. This course has a great deal of information and it's great to able to view it again and to be able to focus on specific sections that I would want to focus on. Paulette is clearly knowledgeable in this subject that is such an important one. So many people have no clue how to deal with the whole dating scene and it is really good the way Paulette breaks it down step by step.’


‘This book is a must for successful, career-minded women who struggle to find commitment-oriented men. These highly competent women will learn how to read men better, attract appropriate men and sustain a healthy relationship. "When Mars Women Date" goes beyond the usual dating advice book. Instead, the author infuses her highly usable help with ways to enrich their inner life. The exercises are original, practical and exactly on target for what today's accomplished women need. Don't waste another moment of anguish, disappointment or heartache. I strongly endorse this book!’

Dr. Leslie Beth WishReader

Counseling Packages

In-Person Therapy

  • 50 Minute Session
  • Phone or Zoom session
  • Some in-network insurances in NYC only are taken
  • Weekly session slots only (or more)

Individual or Couples Coaching

  • $250 for a 50 minute session or 20 percent off for a 10 session package
  • Done via Phone or Zoom
    • All sessions are paid via credit card. No insurance is accepted for coaching.
    • Dr. Sherman’s Books

      award-winning author

      NEW! Facebook Dating Book

      ‘Dr. Paulette Sherman has a new book on Facebook Dating.  Find out more here!

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      Dr. Sherman loves to write. She has written six relationship books and twenty-one books overall. She is working on a legacy project of 22 books that, ‘inspire people to love more.’ She has won fourteen book awards and her books have been translated into French, German, Korean, Czech, Chinese, Italian & Spanish!

      She also has two CD’s of relationship meditations.

      Dr. Sherman loves the idea of spreading her messages of love and healing globally and books are a great way to do that.

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      Relationships from the Inside Out Blog

      Recognize Abusive Relationships and Move On
      Recognize Abusive Relationships and Move On

      There are important lessons we can learn about avoiding abusive dating relationships here: If you have had an abusive or controlling parent you will be more likely to choose that in a mate, unless you have worked on this issue. My book ‘Dating from the Inside Out’ explores this in more depth, in...

      What About Reuniting With an Ex?
      What About Reuniting With an Ex?

      Lightning usually only strikes once but there are exceptions to every rule: Here’s a popular relationship question: Should you get back together with your ex? Many people say that you should not try again with an ex-love because there were good reasons that you broke up in the first place. Often...

      10 Dating Tips for 2019!
      10 Dating Tips for 2019!

      This year you can choose to be the captain of your own love boat. Embrace these 10 dating tips (or create your own) to taking action and fill your life with love! BE OPEN– Often we decide something is not right for us before we even give it a try! For example, many of my